Our founder and CEO, Kerrie, shares her thoughts about joining an online recovery community.
Brene Brown defines connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.
In attachment terms, love and belonging are two of our most basic needs as a species. When we are connected to a person, ourselves, a hobby/career, a group, or a lifestyle, we are ingrained in the present moment, creating joy and passion.
It is this human connection that shapes our brain’s structures, systems, and functions, and these play a critical role in many crucial processes of our lives including attachment relationships, our ability to feel empathy, to engage with other, to find emotional regulation, and to develop one’s sense of self.
Connection encourages social, physical, mental, and emotional contact and healing. When others empathise with us, validate our pain or positive experiences, or find ways to soothe us when needed, we are able to develop a connection with them – and vice versa.
We also can develop a connection with people in many other ways, laughing, sharing interests, and being emotionally available for them. Maintaining this connection can build community and enhance relationships.
Connections within our ourselves invite us to explore our internal worlds and these are often the places where our wounds, past hurts and traumas lie. We can also find a motivation for transformation.
“We can ask ourselves what makes us happy and how we can remain present. With connection to ourselves, we can get more insight on how we hurt and what we can do to heal.”
When we connect with ourselves, we learn more about our spiritual, social, financial, emotional, and mental needs. We can start creating connections by seeking authentic truths about our passions. We can ask ourselves what makes us happy and how we can remain present. With connection to ourselves, we can get more insight on how we hurt and what we can do to heal.
Through this process we can begin to connect with our inner selves seeking to understand who we are at the core of our being. Identifying our passions, values, beliefs, and dislikes helps us learn about who we are. We can ask ourselves what brings us happiness and what actions we can take to sustain positive feelings throughout each day. Remaining in the present helps us reduce anxiety, negative thoughts, and stress. Practicing mindfulness aids us in our mission of connecting with our inner selves.
“Being in treatment offers the benefit of developing a community through which you can form and deepen connections with others.”
Focusing on ourselves is not selfish, but an act of self-love.
There are many ways to achieve this:
- Meditation which helps people become aware of their own thoughts
- Journaling through which we can explore our internal worlds
- Art and photography which offers us spaces to connect with ourselves through external and internal reflection
- As well as talking, asking for feedback, sharing our inner dialogue and thoughts… the list goes on.
Being in treatment offers the benefit of developing a community through which you can form and deepen connections with others.
It provides a space based on reality and authenticity, and with it comes risk.
Opening yourself to others, allowing yourself to be vulnerable in the showing up and sharing, asking to be accountable to those who really ‘see’ you – that requires commitment, courage and accountability. But it has to be a two way process. It also asks you to hold others in your community to account, to hold the same values and beliefs for those around you that you aspire to for yourself, and to speak with truth and honesty and love.
We hold connectivity at the core as we arrive online and navigate the next chapter of your recoveries.
Go openly, Kerrie.